Selecting Party Music? Don’t Sabotage Yourself.

by Robbie Schlosser · 3 comments

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Are you selecting party music or wedding music?  Planning should be easy and fun.

Occasionally, however, small planning puzzles get out of hand and become big obstacles.  And usually they’re all avoidable.

In a minute I’ll tell you why.  First, some background.

Nearly every day I help people selecting party music or wedding music.  And then my band creates the perfect atmosphere at their celebrations.

Magnolia Jazz Band in San Francisco, 2014

For example, here we are (on the bandstand way over on the right) entertaining people at a recent business cocktail party.  Guests in their 20s through 60s enjoyed dinner, wine, lots of chatting, and finally a little dancing.

A wonderful evening at the SF Winery, with sensational decor, lighting, and PA provided by Amos Productions.

Planning the evening’s music was effortless — describing the guests, what they might enjoy hearing, and the atmosphere the party’s planner wants at various points in the evening.  We covered it all, and it’s always a pleasure to work with Jody Amos!

Back to selecting music.  Too often, the people I’m helping manage to sabotage themselves in the planning stages.  They listen to their own little “voices of doubt and uncertainty” saying the job is more than they can handle — too big and complex, with too many choices.

What ultimately helps them is guidance and suggestions from someone who’s “been there, done that”.


As well as family, friends, and other experienced professionals, of course.

I’m thinking about this because earlier today I read a fascinating review of U.S. senator Elizabeth Warren’s recent book, A Fighting Chance.

In it Warren tells of a conversation she had with a veteran Washington colleague.

As she describes it, “…I had a choice:  I could be an insider or I could be an outsider.  Outsiders can say whatever they want.  But people on the inside don’t listen to them.  Insiders, however, get lots of access and a chance to push their ideas.  People — powerful people — listen to what they have to say…”

Seems to me this advice also applies to people selecting party music or wedding music.

The outsiders are those gremlins sabotaging planners with reasons why we can’t do the job.  Plausible reasons, perhaps, but shaky once we examine them closely.  Molehills, not mountains, and we ought to stop listening to these voices.

Sound familiar?  We all contend with some limiting beliefs all our lives.

As I see it, the insiders are our own hopes and dreams, and we should listen to them.  For planning wedding or party music, our intuition — and some professional advice — should guide us to our goals.

So here’s a tip for selecting party music or wedding music.

Beware gremlins of uncertainty.  Be bold.  Get help to clarify a vision of what you want, and listen to your intuition as you plan the details.


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Lisa Mallis

I love how you related “insider” and “outsider” with doubt! You can usually create more change from the inside . . . and when you stop listening to the gremlins even more is possible. As always, something insightful on your blog!
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Thanks Lisa,
Glad you like this tip. As you often show in your own blog, it’s all a matter of perspective — all of us need to occasionally step back enough to recognize that what SEEMS to be an obstacle is actually just a little more information.

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